A recent study has shown that a single use of cocaine appears to change the neuroanatomy of mice brains. I have had it frequently reported to me that the first experience of cocaine makes one want another cocaine-induced experience, but also that the subsequent experiences never match the initial experience. That the first experience changes the structure of neurons suggests this might be true.
This study was done on mice, which presumably may be more easily affected by the single dose than larger humans, but how much different (if at all)? The brain is remarkably plastic and, as the researchers point out, the ease with which cocaine changes the brain likewise suggest the opportunity to re-change the brain as well. However, there are no chemicals that will un-change the brain as effectively or quickly as chemicals can change it.
“I love you” and “sorry” are two phrases that mean substantially more when we put the “why” with them.
Think about what mean more to you…”I love you” vs. “I love how you always kiss me first thing in the morning.” When there is “why” behind the reason we love someone it feels more valid and demonstrates more thoughtfulness or consideration. “I love…” is thrown around so casually these days that as a stand alone phrase it carries less weight–we have become a little adapted to hearing it.
An apology that not only includes what you are sorry for, but why you are sorry carries more weight, again because it shows consideration. “I’m sorry” can sometimes feel like an attempt to get out of the doghouse or just an attempt to bring tension to an end. If you explain an understanding of why the thing for which you are apologizing was hurtful or offensive it demonstrates that you thought about your action–not just simply accepted that the person to whom you are apologizing did not like it. Consider “I am sorry that I hurt your feelings” vs. “I am sorry that I did not think about how my off-handed comment would make you feel.” There is more ownership in the second example and therefore it feels more genuine.
Demonstrate more thoughtfulness and your words will have more of an impact.